LDR
I have something to share with all the bloggers as well as blog readers. You see, when I just got into a relationship with Hatta, I know that one tough challenge that I'm gonna face is when he starts his national service.
So, earlier this year, he got enlisted into army and I was left all alone on the mainland. It was pretty tough on me for the first 2 weeks when he didn't come home and after that, we were only restricted to the weekends only.
In time, our relationship becomes a long-distance one even though we live just a few blocks away. Till now, even after 6 months and that I'm getting immune to his absence, the emotions inside me still isn't that stable. I still feel lonely and insecure most of the times. I lack of attention and the support I need. Everyday, I silently yearn for his presence. However, my feelings never faded for him. It actually becomes stronger as time passes by and I need him more than ever.
Anyway, this is gonna be a pretty lengthy entry cause I'm gonna extract an article from NTU's inTune about long distance relationship(LDR) which I read during lunchbreak just now. This is also gonna be an educationcal entry for me, for those who are also involved in LDR and yes, especially for HIM. Here it is:
"Often in a long distance relationship, couples are separated by great distance, not merely physical distance but also time and accessibility. LDRs usually happen when one or both of you have to leave for reasons such as a change of school, or National Service.
What happens: Initially couples believe the physical space between them won't affect their love for each other. After all, they are meant for each other...aren't they? But then lack of trust, insecurity, ineffective communication and physical intimacy threatens to tear the couple apart. What's worse, it is hard to detect, much less resolve conflicts when we are apart. Trust becomes an issue as you don't know what the other part is doing. Also, there are higher chance of the other party meeting other people.
Making the decision: An LDR is difficult, but still possible. It depends on each individual couple. Friendship-based relationships(my relationship!!) tends to survive better. What is most important is whether the effort is going to be mutual. Both must also be ready and willing to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together. Before the separation, couples should have The Talk. If they agree to remain a couple, there is much to agree on.
Make it work: Surviving an LDR can be challenging but also fulfilling. At the end, couples can learn to appreciate each other more having gone through such a tough time together.
Some neglect the importance of small talk when they are together but that is what connect couples together and provides them with a sense of closeness. Couples should be honest about how they feel towards each other. For one, if you decide that the relationship is not working out, it is better to be honest than keep the other person in the dark. Being honest all the time also helps a couple have more faith and a greater sense of security.
Couples can make plans to meet up during their holidays. Have an end sight. Otherwise, frustration will set in and upset the relationship balance. However once plans are made, it is important to keep promises.
You need to be extra demonstrative. Little things that could be done easily before the LDR now require more effort. However, they are also better appreciated. Trust is the golden word. Being suspicious and over-sensitive will only cause frustration.
Couples have to look out for certain warning sighs, too. Tell your friends you are going to be in a LDR and that "that's the end" look appears. But don't allow them to affect your decisions. Girls think men are sweet and nice if they wait faithfully. However, this "nice guy" advantage vanishes the instant they try to make use of it. Remain the sweet and faithful man you are. Birthdays and Valentine's Day can be killers. Think of ways to pass them with other loved ones. Also, time could be taken to create gifts to send to your other.
And in the end, Happily Ever After may just be more fulfilling than ever for a couple that passes the test of time and space."
My relationship has been tested for 6 months and 18 more months to go. A test of love, faith, trust and even patience. Insya'Allah, I hope and really hope that our relationship will survive forever no matter whatever may come...
Love him....(=
QueenLiyn@18:32
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